5 Best Tips To Be A Dating Flirt Master

There is an art to flirting well. It takes a master dating flirt to flirt seamlessly. For some people, the gift of the gab and the ability to talk with a fluid grace that quickly disarms and charms people is an innate gift they were born with. Ask any Gemini the key to their flirting prowess, and they will wrap you around their finger with a gentle dexterity that is nothing short of magical to behold.

Flirting is a skill like any other, and you learn through trial, error, and practice. Flirting must be conducted with the right intentions, and those intentions are harmless. A little ego flattery, a smidge of ego boosting, a sprinkle of admiration and appreciation, and being able to read, mirror, and return or counterbalance the nonverbal cues to the person they are flirting with to get the result they desire.

In short, to be a truly successful flirt, you must be a master manipulator but for the greater good, not the sinister self-service. It is one thing to order a subordinate to get you a coffee and another to slip the subtle subliminal suggestion that you would love them more if they made you one of their amazing coffees and added a raspberry Danish while you made your way through the workload before you that seems endless. The desire for them to make you a coffee you like will be welcomed because they seek the praise at the other end you will lavish them with. They want to serve your every whim and wish willingly when the right level of flirting has been applied. The ordered subordinate is likely to spit in the mug and do unspeakable things to your coffee while pushing pins into a voodoo doll of you they made and keep handy.

As with anything in life, there are multiple forms of flirting, and they all have situational and behavioural factors that call for different skill sets. We shall focus on the art of dating flirts. What skills can you learn from reading this article that will make you a better dating flirt?

Learning how to flirt will enable you to attract more admirers and send non-verbal cues of your interest in a person directly to their subconscious. Dating flirts are especially good at speed dating events. They possess the ability to quickly see-through smoke screens and fake facades. They can spot a manipulator, liar, and con man a mile away because they possess all of those traits; after all, it takes one to know one, and that is what makes them the successful flirt they are.

Learn How To Become A Successful Dating Flirt

Flirting is a minefield, and a good flirt is a professional explosives technician. Get it wrong, and it can blow up in your face becoming awkward or embarrassing. It has the opposite effect to your desired outcome and raises the warning flag on your person of interest. Get it right, and you can clear the minefield of all explosives and send clear signals to a stranger that you fancy getting to know them. Flirting can be non-verbal cues expressed in body language, actions, or placement of hands on the person of interest, or it can take the form of flirty, witty verbal repertoire. An expert will employ all forms in unison!

How Do I Learn To Flirt Like An Expert

People with playful personalities are natural flirts, they flirt automatically with everyone to cross their path, but not everyone flirts with the right intentions. Flirting in the wrong hands or applied by someone with an ulterior motive can be highly destructive. A woman who seeks to flirt with a man she knows is married intends to lead him astray and likely into an affair that will benefit her and cost him dearly when all is said and done or vice versa. If flirting does not come naturally to you, don’t despair.

Master The Art Of A Dating Flirt

1. Eye Contact

Eye contact is the foundation of all successful endeavours. The eyes are the mirror to the soul. You can spot lies and insincerity in a person instantly when they cannot maintain eye contact with you or look away when telling a lie. Knowing how to read body language is the first skill you need to master in order to become an expert dating flirt.

Read up on body language books by the likes of Allan Pease. Allan is an Australian body language expert with a global reputation and author or co-author of 15 top-selling books on the subject.

Try this exercise when you next spot a hottie:

Make direct eye contact for three seconds and offer them a genuine full-face smile. If you have the confidence and the ability to wink, a cheeky wink here will seal the deal and see interest in the person you have focused your attention upon. A mouth-only smile does not reach the eyes and screams disinterest and insincerity. Break eye contact for a few seconds, re-establish eye contact, and hold the smiling again.

Advanced female flirts may add a slight hair stroke or touch their hair in some format. Blatant flirting of a sexual nature will see a woman intentionally draw your eyes to her decolletage/chest area. Once she sees you have focused on her chest, she will subtly pull her shoulders backwards and push her chest forward, towards you. Done well, the move will be so subtle you might never have noticed it consciously had you not read this article.

Winking, if you are not good at it and do not have the confidence to pull it off, is a mistake. Winking can be taken as over-confident or condescending if all the pieces are not blended seamlessly and the wink is not received as a cheeky, playful gesture but in some other unwanted or sleazy context by the recipient.

If they reciprocate the smile and eye contact and look happy about it, you’re in luck. If they throw you back a wink or step it up and blow you a kiss, buy a lotto ticket, you just caught the eye of a professional flirt and are about to have the encounter of a lifetime! All you need to do is cross the room and speak to them, likely meet them halfway, or if you were already in a date scenario, you just got the green light to take it to the next level.

2. Hand Gestures

Hand gestures are exceptionally important, and there is a reason so many languages use their hands to talk, gesture or punctuate their words. Italians are notorious for speaking with their hands, and here is why. When you use your hands to punctuate your words, you can control the conversation and the attention of the person you are engaging in conversation. They are so busy trying to keep track of your hands that they are too fixated on you to look elsewhere. A master flirt will use this skill to their advantage and use their hands to direct your eyes subtly to the body parts they want you to focus on or simply keep your eyes glued to them if they want to monopolise your time.

A master flirt will casually reach out and touch your hand or forearm briefly and then withdraw the contact and study your pupils for any sign of a reaction. Arousal will cause the pupils to dilate slightly, and when you intend to create arousal, you can see that in the person’s eyes. They have zero ability to control that autonomic response, so they cannot lie about being aroused or interested in you.

It also has to be said that a lack of pupil dilation can be equally telling as to their disinterest in you. If you touch their arm and they look at your hand and then lift their eyes and glare at you in a clear manner that silently says, “Don’t touch me again, or I will break your fingers,” it is time to cut your losses and back away.

Women can often be found admiring a solid and well-defined set of guns on a man. If she is flirting, she will touch them and draw your attention to them so you know that she is admiring your physique and actively suggesting she should like to see more of you, ideally naked, at some point in the near future.

Men, when they get to the touching stage, often place their hand in the small of a woman’s back, usually in conjunction with the suggestion that they move somewhere else as they gesture with one hand and place the other gently into the desired woman’s lower back, prompting her with a gentle pressure to move in the direction indicated by the extended hand. A man with his hand on a woman’s hip is claiming ownership and displaying his possessiveness toward the woman in question.

3. Head On Approach

Never approach a candidate of interest from behind or by sidling up from the side of their peripheral vision. Think about it: anyone not approaching you head-on directly is looking to surprise or ambush you, which is never taken well by a person. The surprise element is also a nonverbal cue that suggests a sinister intention and will raise a red flag putting you at an instant disadvantage from which you will have to work overtime to negate. Let them see and watch your approach, preferably after some successful eye contact and smile-flirting engagement. Keep their eyes locked with yours where you can as you make your way towards them to introduce yourself.

4. The Ultimate Icebreaker – Sense of Humour

If you have a good sense of humour or the perfect icebreaker, now is the perfect time to shine like a flawless D-class diamond and dazzle your person of interest. Being the first to lead with an awesome icebreaker or delightful pick-up line puts you in the power position and takes the heat off the other person who might not be as socially confident and bold as yourself. Avoid the overused cliché pick-up lines about angels falling from heaven etc. A bad pick-up line or crass icebreaker can kill any chance you have, and that will be the first impression they receive from you.

Being the first to break the ice is one of the secrets to being a master dating flirt. It shows confidence, and for women, it can signify masculine dominance. Most women seek a dominant male partner in life. Please note there is an indisputable, clearly defined difference between dominant and domineering. No one likes a person who is domineering for any reason unless you are into the BDSM games, and that is not what flirting and dating is about!

Never make a joke that is sexual in nature, crass, or at someone else’s expense. Jokes should be playful and funny and receive genuine laughter from the recipient. I should also add now is the perfect time to see if you can make them belly laugh. Some of the best-looking people have the most heinous or obnoxious laughs and voices that can make an onion cry hysterically or have the same effect on people as dragging nails down a chalkboard. The sooner you can eliminate these issues, the faster you can work on getting to know them.

5. The Power Of Touch

Touch is incredibly powerful but must be applied with caution and in the appropriate manner, time, and place on the body. If you are on a date, try gently touching their forearm or the small of the back as you lean in and ask if they would like a drink, or to move to somewhere less noisy if you are in a bar or club with music that makes engaging in conversation redundant.

If you are on a date and things are going well, the chemistry is flowing freely, you can add in a gentle brush of knees, arms or women can often press their breast into a man’s arm as she leans past him for a drink on the table, or to reach for something. Full body contact on the dance floor as you press lightly against your date will give you a clear indicator if they are open to your sexual advances as they will press back into you. If not, they will pull back and place distance between you.

If you wish to hold their hand, try reading up on the basics of palmistry reading and get to grips with what lines are what and do what and go where. You can hold their hand and give them a mini palm reading simultaneously. A master dating flirt will use this technique to blatantly suggest to their person of interest that their future clearly shows them agreeing to another date, and what is that, a marriage line? If things go well, that could be your future together.

Always monitor the person’s body language and reactions when flirting. Things bode well for you if it meets with a receptive and equally open response. If the person seems distant or places space between you, then take the hint, and back off entirely. Sometimes people aren’t interested in what you have to offer. It does not mean you are a bad flirt or doing anything wrong. You are not their type, and they are not interested in getting to know you, even if you desire them. Do not persist in a conversation they are clearly trying to shut down, or with behaviour that makes them visibly uncomfortable.

Painfully Shy

Being painfully shy is something that only exposure to people will cure. It sucks if you are so shy you can’t dare to put yourself out there, but ultimately, it is your life, and you control yourself and your actions. The good news is that you don’t have to throw yourself into the deep end of the pool and drown. You can work your way up to face-to-face conversation by starting with virtual online speed dating. In fact, you can join free chat groups the globe over that will allow you to virtually work through your fears and gain confidence making small talk with strangers long before you pluck up the courage to hit a venue and talk to a stranger in person. Think of virtual dating as training wheels on a pedal-powered bicycle while you work your way up to learning how to ride the ultimate motorcycle of social interaction.

Social Media Flirting

Sexting has become synonymous with mobile phone app dating and the use of emojis as a thinly veiled picture book of innuendo and suggestion without writing the words. Pictures are generally taken better than words that can be directly offensive.

For example: if you type into a text message the words, ‘do you like … and you use an eggplant and a peach emoji’, you are asking them if they like anal sex. If you were to type that sentence directly, you would likely get a vastly different response to the picture version. The reason for that is the person receiving the text can opt not to answer your direct question by pretending they have no idea what it means or explaining they genuinely don’t speak emoji hieroglyphics.

Remember, emojis are a millennial invention, and older people tend not to have learned the language of the youth. They might know a few random symbols if they are plastered across the different forms of social media or have children who speak it, but don’t assume everyone speaks emoji.

How To Flirt Online

In the age of social media and online dating, knowing how to flirt with words or pictures is incredibly useful. The first rule of flirting online is: Never send unsolicited genital pics or naked images!

Especially to someone you have never met. Surprisingly, many men on dating sites open a conversation with a potentially interested woman by starting the chat with an unwanted and unexpected in-your-face genital pic! Master dating flirts know that women love mystery and intrigue. They don’t want to see your junk before they get to know you, no matter how impressive it is (or isn’t). Women like to unwrap their gifts and discover joy or disappointment in their own time and at the appropriate relationship stage. A master dating flirt never leads with their genitals. They opt for respect.

Also, big tip, guys, any woman who opens a conversation with naked breasts or body images is not a real woman looking to ravage you with nymphomaniac hunger only you can sate. They are bots or scammers looking to get your credit card details or a location to steal your possessions, money, or automobile from you. No self-respecting woman will show you her pleasure places without putting in significant groundwork on a solid foundation. If you are looking for a casual hookup in which this type of female player can be found, perhaps check out tinder or bumble.

Having read the above, you can understand why genuine, good-quality women are no longer on dating apps and interested in online dating, as the number of men misusing the platforms turns them away and ruins it for genuine guys.

So How Do You Meet Quality Singles

Now you have some research and homework to do in your own time with the above basics of becoming a master dating flirt. The hottest and most predominant dating format at the time of writing this article is speed dating. Book yourself onto a speed dating event near you, either virtually or in person. If you have friends, head out for a night on the town and use the tips above to see how you can change your dating fortune. Be upfront about what you seek from the person of interest. If you are only looking for a Friend With Benefits setup, ensure you work that into the conversation within ten minutes. Don’t waste their time or yours making the long play just to score a meaningless sexual encounter.

There are female players out there, as there are male players. The genuine people are out there, and they do require you to put in the effort, time, and investment into growing a friendship into what could become a long-term relationship or marriage down the track.