Does Speed Dating Work In Australia
Does Speed Dating Work
Yes. What you put into speed dating is what you will get back. Speed dating works when you approach it with the right intentions and have the right approach and interesting original questions to ask of the people you meet. It will help if you remember that you are interacting with real people in real-time, not avatars and bots over the internet.
Will I Meet Anyone I Like
How likeable are you? Do you actively like to meet new people with an openness that is refreshing and lacks suspicion of motive? Do people tell you that you are warm, fun, and great to hang with? People who are openly friendly and approachable, who smile frequently and flirt just a little bit, tend to be well received by all personality types. Your chances of meeting someone you like will increase by being likeable to the masses. If your appearance and demeanour are that of a goth emo stuck in the ‘Twilight’ era, then your appeal to the general populace is going to be limited, certainly from the onset of meeting like-minded people at a speed dating event.
We all carry unconscious bias when it comes to attraction and finding what we consider to be a suitable mate. That bias can unfairly eliminate people who would have made a great life partner. Speed dating forces you to be open-minded about the people opposite you as you don’t get the choice to not engage them in conversation like you would if you were on a dating app or out at a nightclub and could walk away. Some of the most surprising conversations can be sparked by people we would never have given the time of day to if left to our own bias.
At the speed dating event, you will meet at least one person you would like to see again, even if that is not for a romantic interlude. Plenty of friendships and business deals have been struck as the result of a speed dating event. You would have to be ultra-fussy and type-specific, the worst possible date anyone could imagine having, or unrealistically expecting a level of perfection that does not exist to not meet at least one person in a room filled with people of all personality types, walks of life and vocations to catch up with outside of the speed dating event.
People Don’t Take Speed Dating Seriously
It’s just a bit of harmless fun to see what fish are out there in the ocean around you. While there is an element of relaxed harmless fun, you get back what you invest when it comes to the quality of your interactions with the people opposite you. If you don’t take a genuine interest in and listen to the candidates, you risk crashing and burning, going home without any names or numbers to follow up with real dates.
Generally, the people at speed dating events are there with the serious intention to find like-minds they can interact with outside of the event. Not every interaction has to be romantic or sexual in nature. Good speed dating tips can introduce you to new friends, business contacts and network opportunities. If you restrict yourself to only viewing speed dating as having to land you someone to engage in a sexual relationship with at some point, then you are doing yourself and others a major disservice, and you will walk away saying it was a failed enterprise and a waste of your time.
In reality, you failed yourself before you left the event by having a biassed and closed mind.
Isn’t App Dating Better Than Speed Dating
Decades after speed dating was invented, the emergence of dating apps beguiled the masses with the promise that it was “safer” and “secure” and took away the “awkwardness” of social interaction with people we did not want attention from in the real world.
Plenty of websites dedicated to dating still exist, but with each year that passes, they grow less populated as disenfranchised members delete accounts and shun the system.
Millions of people everyday swipe left and right through profile after profile, each carrying a type bias that cannot be countered. These people are basing their judgement on physical appearance alone. While intimate relationships require chemistry between both parties to work, speed dating forces the return to seeing people we would have swiped away without a second thought in a new light.
If anything, dating apps overcomplicate and heavily bias the dating process.
With speed dating, you decide to date someone based on their energy and how their energy field blends with yours at a subconscious level. With dating apps, you make your decision based purely on photos that are heavily altered or filtered or photoshopped and what, if any, profile text is available to assess the person’s intelligence, literacy levels, genuine desire to meet a soul mate, not a hook up for the night.
Ironically, both options have the potential to leave you with your date ghosting you, love bombing you or turn out not to be authentic, and you fell for the smoke and mirrors routine. Both can be a potentially risky business, but the same can be said about life itself. There are no guarantees, not even death and taxes. Taxes can be avoided, and death can be stalled or hastened based on random events and clinical technology that keeps people alive in comas for years after they would have died naturally without medical intervention.
Why Is Speed Dating Better
Speed dating can be good fun and makes sense for time-poor people with the potential to meet up to 20 dates simultaneously in one room. Who doesn’t love that level of convenience and safety?
Safety is a great reason to attend a speed dating event. No one is ever entirely safe anywhere, but while you are in the venue the speed dating is held, you are not out potentially risking your life visiting strangers at their place, inviting them back to yours, or being stalked in a public space by an obsessed stalker you didn’t know was fixated on you thanks to your dating Apps and Facebook pages. Where else can you meet twenty strangers at the same time in a neutral place?
Speed dating allows you to meet people first and then match up later where there is a spark. A mutual match from speed dating means more than a swipe right on a photo because the chemistry potential was instantly present or absent when you sat down across from each other. You cannot gauge chemistry from a photo. Chemistry only appears when two aura fields interact and that only happens when you are physically present in each other’s energy fields.
How Many Events Will It Take To Get A Date
How long is a piece of string? You alone decide who you would like to match up with after the event has concluded. On average, in the room of twenty candidates, you will likely have a match with three that you would like to follow-up post the event. That doesn’t mean they will all want to see you, and there might be people who want to follow up with you that you wrote off initially, but after some time has passed, you might decide to connect with.
To say that you will find the love of your life and your eternal twin flame at a speed dating event while possible is highly improbable, and you would be in the astronomical realms if you landed said individual first bite at the cherry. It would definitely be grounds for calling it a miracle or a destined event that was fated for you regardless of whether or not you believe in that kind of thing.
The truth is that the more events you attend, the better you get at meeting with strangers and the more comfortable you become talking to strangers and holding conversations that have benefits across all areas of your life. Many a speed dater walked into their first event as a shy wallflower and a year later are the centre of attention and can hold court on any topic at length.
For some reason, statistically speaking, they are usually a Gemini, so, hey, it is what it is. I guess those Gemini people have the gift of the gab and the ability to read a person with a little more accurate insight than the rest of us. The point is there is no specific time limit or a number of events in which you will walk away with a date or the love of your life. Approach each event with an open mind and see where it takes you, with no expectations in place prior to the event concluding.
How Are Speed Dates Run
There is no specific set of rules, and individual hosts will have their own formula and time constraints. As a general guide only, they are broken down thusly.
Gather, get a drink, and a quick mingle until everyone is present, and then the ladies will be called to take a seat. Once they are seated, the men will be directed to also find a seat and get settled in for their first peed date.
The timer will vary for each event based on the number of people in the room and the time allotted for the event, typically three hours.
You engage your date in conversation until the host calls time, at which point the men will stand up and move in a direction (usually to their right), and the process begins again until all the dates have been cycled through.
At this point, some events will conclude, and it is up to you to mingle and catch up with your interested parties, exchange numbers or contact details and then follow up outside of the event at a later date. The world is your oyster in that regard.
What Not To Do At A Speed Dating Event
Don’t go to a speed dating event with any expectations in place. Do not expect that you will find someone willing to hook up with you after the event for some adult games. Speed dating is not a place to find a one-night stand, nor a place to go looking for one. The people who undertake speed dating events pretend they are just there for the joke and to check things out, but they are all really there in the hopes of finding a genuine person with whom they click and can develop a relationship outside the event into the future.
Remember that a relationship does not have to be defined as a sexual relationship. Relationships can be strictly platonic with the meeting of two like-minds who love camping, bowling, skydiving or scuba diving and need someone to do those things with! Things you discover by asking questions that you have in common with strangers.
Don’t use it as a platform to debase your ex and hate on a gender who did you wrong in the past.
Do not use it to spout your political or religious views.
You are not alone in the world. Everyone gets screwed over by someone in life and has a horror story to tell. Save it for any potential future dates where that conversation belongs.
Do not get sexual, smutty, dirty, rude, obnoxious, or offensive.
If you can’t stand the person, get up and walk away. The event host will see that there is a problem and come sort it out.
Don’t get wasted, drunk, or high before attending the event. One to relax you is fine, but three is more than you need to be socially relaxed.
Make sure your personal hygiene is top-notch and in place. Shower, clean your teeth, brush your hair, clean your ears, trim nose, ear, and excess hair, and use deodorant and a small amount of a good quality cologne or perfume that works for you. Iron your clothes and dress with a sophisticated dressy casual style.
Avoid cliché looks like goth, emo, gold digger, bogan, cosplay etc., they have a time and place elsewhere.
Avoid cheap colognes and perfumes and going heavy-handed on the scent. Just because you love it does not mean the other people forced to sit opposite you will like it in the slightest.
Make It Fun For Yourself
If nothing else, make the night fun for yourself by playing head games to amuse yourself while you sit through boring conversations if you can’t change the trajectory of the date. Some people love to talk about themselves and their lives and are compulsive liars without conscience. See how often you can catch them out on their lies or trip them up with the truth. Do something that allows you to walk away with a story to tell on your next date, with whomever it is, assuming you ever have a next date, because if you can’t find one after, let’s say, three-speed date events. The problem is 100 % you!