Signs They Want A Relationship With You

You have been single long enough, healed from past hurts, and moved on with your new life and healthy, happy mindset. You are ready to meet the right person to share life’s adventures.

If you are like most dating singles, you seek to find a best friend and life partner. You want to make memories, be spontaneous and plan trips to exotic international destinations, but most importantly, you want to feel wanted, needed, cherished, and desired passionately by them on a mutual level.

Great, in theory, you know what you want, but the universe seems to have some objections to your carefully thought-out plans. For some reason, you keep attracting and dating people who ghost you, love bomb you, cancel plans at the last minute with fake excuses easily seen through, pull away, or simply change their mind about your compatibility. You are fast losing hope that your counterpart exists, let alone that it is your destiny to find each other for your happy-ever-after ending.

Top Tips To Keep In Mind

Manners and respect make all the difference.
First impressions leave a significant impact on the psyche.
Have impeccable personal hygiene and present your best self.
Build something lasting beyond the physical aspects of a relationship.
The wrong person for someone else might be the right person for you.
Don’t compromise what you want in a relationship to give the other person what they want.
Tell someone honestly from the get-go if they are not a match for you.
A moment of emotional discomfort takes courage to overcome for some, but it beats entering the wrong fit relationship doomed to end with regrets that could have been avoided.
Only date people who want an exclusive long-term committed relationship.
Don’t waste time with someone who wants to keep things casual. Casual is a red flag and a sign of someone not wanting a long-term commitment.
Keep alert for all the dating red flags that could prevent a potential nightmare from occurring down the track.
Knowing who you are not open to dating and why is equally as important as knowing who you are open to dating. Don’t invest time, money, or energy in the wrong people. Being firm and sticking to your guns means you only entertain and pursue the right people with similar values and wants.

Five Signs They Want A Relationship

#1 They Put In Effort To Get To Know You

They ask you open questions that allow you to reveal who you are and what you want from life at a level and pace you are comfortable with. They seek to get to know the real you without being pushy or invading your personal space with rude or invasive questions.

They don’t shy away from expressing their own life story and what it is they seek from life, a partner, and the process of developing a relationship. They are curious about who you are, your passions, and your hobbies. They seek to discover your hidden talents and unearth any of your irrational fears in a give-and-take format that is not one-sided.

Be aware of people mining you for private information. If they ask about family pets as a kid, that is good. If they directly ask for the pet’s name, then red flag they might be searching for personal information for potential identity theft.

If they only talk about themselves or money the entire time, it would be wise to call time there and then. These are red flags for a narcissist and gold digger, both of whom are unsuitable healthy long-term partners.

#2 They Don’t Play Games

Signs they want a relationship to develop with you means they will respond readily with genuine interest or enthusiasm to your conversations, observations, theories, and philosophies.

They are upfront and direct about what they want and don’t leave you feeling like you are pulling teeth from a great white shark in open water using tweezers to get them to reciprocate with an even flow of conversation.

They will make time to hang out with you and meet up in person as often as they can because they love your energy and want to spend their spare time with you.

They don’t wait days to message or call you back. Anyone who waits days to respond to a text or call is intentionally trying to manipulate and control the situation. This a major red flag for the controlling and potentially physically abusive types early in the process, and you would be wise to call time on this person and move on to the next one ASAP.

People who are genuinely interested in you will gladly text, call, or make plans to hang out in public places and in private equally. Sometimes, their enthusiasm or yours can be considered OTT to the point of annoying. While not necessarily a reason to call time, you might need to have a conversation about curbing their enthusiasm. Excessive texting and calling can be a red flag for co-dependent people who seek to morph into their new partner and absorb them as their life-support system. Be on the lookout for subtle emotional blackmail and manipulation, along with the inability to go anywhere without the new person attached like a limpet. They might seem like good fun in the beginning, but over time co-dependent relationships are toxic and highly destructive to both parties.

#3 They Listen Attentively

They listen to you and remember what you’ve shared with them because they seek to discover everything they can about you, and retaining that information will be important down the track to them. For example, your favourite flower, chocolates, alcohol, colour, cologne, perfume, movie, or book genre. What food you prefer to eat. How you have your coffee or if you only drink tea etc.

They acknowledge the things you say by repeating back to you what they heard to some degree. They will actively ask you follow-up questions or share a similar experience they had with you. If they walk away from you while you are talking, take calls or answer texts while on a date with you, or seem distracted and not present in the moment while you are speaking, ask them what has distracted them. If they say nothing, take it as a big red flag you are boring them to death and call time. Things only go downhill fast from this point.

#4 Mirroring

Mirroring someone is one technique that can be used as a weapon to manipulate and facilitate establishing a quick bond with someone who carries an ego. It can also be entirely unconscious and the result of their desire for you manifesting in them mirroring your stance, movements, body posture, etc., in a bid to be closer to you and establish a physical, emotional, or energetic bond.

If you notice them mirroring you, dig a little deeper and actively do things to see if they mirror instantly, suggesting cognitive manipulation, or if they take a little time but then end up moving into the position you moved into naturally.

#5 Punctuality Shows Respect

Respect your time and theirs by showing up to a date a little earlier than the planned time. Being tardy is not an attractive trait and suggests that you are not a priority in their life. If they are genuinely late, they will offer you the reason for their delay, and it will be up to you to use your gut instinct to determine if the reason was genuine or a blatant lie.

Signs they want a relationship with you ensure they don’t bail at the last minute regularly or push back the time you are supposed to meet to fit other things in before they have time for you.

They won’t be distracted by notifications on their media devices because they will have switched them off or put them on silent. After all, they want to get to know you and can return the call or text after your date has concluded. If they state in advance they require their phone to be active due to having a sitter with children or being in a vocation that requires them to be contactable at all times, they will politely excuse themselves to break the flow of conversation, address the issue and then return to the conversation with an apology for the break. Life happens, but there is genuine and non-genuine screen time on a date.

They take dating seriously because they are looking for a long-term relationship and are assessing you for all the same red flags you are assessing and judging them for possessing and displaying. Dating is a two-way street, not a one-way lane.

All The Good Ones Have Been Taken

It is fair to say that good partners are quickly taken off the market by partners who see their value and worth and seek to spend their lives with that amazing lover, friend, spouse, and parent of their shared offspring. It is not fair to say that all the good people have been taken. Plenty of good partners are single and waiting to meet their ideal counterpart and join the ‘off the market’ club.

Marriages run their course, and people divorce, are widowed, or separate due to growing apart and having nothing in common to carry forward their relationships. That means there is a constant turnover in the dating pool, and the variety of fish constantly changes for both genders.

If They Are Single There Is A Reason For That So Steer Clear

While there might be some individuals of both genders out there who are single and should be avoided for a reason, not every single person who has never married is a crazy, deranged nut job you need to steer clear of at all costs. While some people will definitely have screws loose and be a breath away from a straitjacket, they have typically been married or badly burnt by a past relationship they have not released and healed from at least once.

Some have extenuating circumstances, exceptionally high standards, and vocations that curtail socialisation and healthy relationship development. Then there are the ultra-selective with niche, type-specific requirements that are so rare it is almost impossible to find a suitable mate in the general populace to enter a relationship with. Those people, for whatever reason, will choose to remain abstinent and single, waiting as long as it takes for the right person for them to enter their lives. It may be that their soulmate never arrives, and they are forced to travel the journey of life solo.

Never Settle For Less Than You Are Worth

Self-esteem and self-respect are two of the most important aspects of any relationship. Before you are ready to enter a healthy long-term relationship, you need to work on yourself and have clear boundaries set in place that you do not let anyone else cross. Signs they want a relationship with you will be that they respect your boundaries and never do anything that would intentionally cross a boundary or damage and undermine your self-esteem. Therefore, for a relationship to be healthy and long-term, you need to know your worth and value as a partner and then look for a partner who shares the same values and has similar ideologies and philosophies that complement and constantly grow stronger together.

Fiscal wealth plays no part in true love. Wealthy people can lose it all overnight in the same way poor people can strike it rich overnight. If financial wealth is your prime motive for dating and entering a relationship, then you are never going to have a healthy, long-term relationship because your priorities are not in alignment with the fundamental requirements of a healthy give-and-take long-term relationship. Greed never gets long-term rewards.

Wealth-driven people tend to make lousy life partners as their priorities are focused on making money, not on making a healthy relationship work. They will quickly allow a relationship to slide and end if that is the sacrifice required to keep making money. When the focus is not mutually on building, maintaining, and nurturing your ever-evolving relationship, that is a clear red flag sign they do not seek a healthy long-term relationship.

Love Yourself Enough To Call Time

One of the hardest things for people to do is accept defeat and admit to failure. They may feel shame or be unwilling to move past the denial, but knowing when to call time on a relationship at any stage becomes paramount. The moment your gut instinct forces you to see the red flags and begins to tell you something isn’t right, your gut is telling you that it is time to make the final assessment and call time. Ideally, amicably and with dignity for both parties where possible.

Trying to throw one patch after another on a cheating spouse or finance-focused partner to make a relationship work is breaking your self-respect and healthy relationship boundaries.

Why would you stay and erode your self-esteem and allow them to disrespect you? Your children then grow up seeing and believing that is how a married or long-term relationship works, and that is the exact relationship model you set up for them to engage with in their future partners.

Love yourself enough to accept that we all fail at things in life and that it takes two people providing equal input to make a relationship work. Failure, as hard as it can be for some to accept, is not a bad thing. It is meant to teach you a lesson, so you do not repeat a certain behaviour in the next relationship. Not everyone learns that lesson; some repeat the same relationship mistakes multiple times before they eventually learn the lesson and stop making the mistakes.

Don’t look at your failed relationships as a waste of time and major regret. Look at them as a steep learning curve and then dissect them to make sure you can identify when, where, how, and why things went south. Take ownership of your role in each event and identify what aspects of yourself you need to change that will allow you to grow and mature and be ready to move forward in a healthy long-term relationship.

If you believe that everyone else is at fault and they caused all your breakups, then the bad news for you is that all your failed relationships have one common denominator that is the cause of your problems and needs to be addressed, and that is you! The types of relationships you attract and enter won’t change unless you change for the better.

So, take some time to really get to know your true self, write down what you do and don’t want in a partner, set your boundaries, and only dedicate time to furthering and pursuing legitimate long-term relationships past the first date. If you stay true to yourself and seek a like-minded individual, you, too, will be entering a healthy, long-term relationship in no time!